Publisher: CreateSpace Independent Publishing Platform
Publication Date: September 18, 2013
Book Links: Amazon / Barnes & Noble
Synopsis: A middle-aged, homophobic man recounts how he found enlightenment through a dance called The Tango.
The author confesses to crimes and ignorance and then takes the reader on a journey into the mysterious culture of tango dancers.
Chest-to-chest in the embrace of beautiful women and the world’s most passionate dance, he struggles to maintain his composure and his sanity. Throughout the course of the book, he comes to realize the answer to his problems. Success on the dance floor and success in life depend on one thing: respect for the opposite sex.
Interview: Q. Please tell us about the inspiration for your current release.
After moving to Fargo, ND, for work, from Durango, CO, where I lived for eighteen months, I found that I was desperate to get back there to my girlfriend. I had been writing about my tango experiences in my kayakhombre blog and I suspected I had enough material to put together something for the mass market. The community of tango dancers is very small but I’ve always felt that the benefits we gain from dancing are of interest to everyone.
So, to answer your question succinctly, my inspiration to write Fear of Intimacy was the lovesickness I held for my sweetie, combined with my desire to let the world know how tango has affected me and my emotional health.
Q. How did writing this book affect you?
As always, writing, good writing, is like an intensive psychotherapy session. I didn’t know what the book would be about until I went through all my best material and began assembling it into a story. What I realized is that my fear of intimacy was a factor in my divorce and that tango cured it.
On a more cosmic level, I found it fascinating that I was unconsciously aware of my problem and that my heart led me to a remedy that I thought was quite bizarre at the time.
Q. Is there anything you haven’t written about that you would like to in the future?
Yes, and it is the subject of my next book: Understanding Women’s Erogenous Zones. It is my intention to explain why men have such a difficult time understanding that a woman’s erogenous zone is not a magical spot on her body, rather it is a compilation of all her senses: the room she is in, how safe she feels, what she smells, sees and hears.
Q. Which of your characters would you want to be and why?
Me and my experiences are the basis of most of my characters, so I am going to say that I am the character I’d like to be most. It is a scary task but I’m the only man for the job.
Q. If you could learn to do anything, what would it be?
I would like to learn how to do desert backpacking. When I am living in Durango full-time, then that is what I will do.
Q. What are you currently reading?
My answers to this questionnaire and the Wikipedia history of kings in Western Europe after the fall of the Roman Empire.
Q. All of the books you’ve read, which book has impacted you the most?
The Histories by Herodotus.
Q. What gives you the most joy in life?
My two daughters, Ljuba Lemke and my immediate family.
Q. Do you have anything specific that you want to say to your readers?
Yes, read the first five pages of Fear of Intimacy and the Tango Cure on Amazon. If you give me that much, I think you will buy my book. If you buy my book, I think it will help you understand yourself and others a little bit better, which will make the world a better place to live for all of us.
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