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Publisher: Sourcebooks Fire
Publication Date: July 2, 2013
Book Link: Amazon
Synopsis: They Said It Was An Accident...
Sawyer Dodd is a star athlete, a straight-A student, and the envy of every other girl who wants to date Kevin Anderson. When Kevin dies in a tragic car crash, Sawyer is stunned. Then she opens her locker to find a note:
Someone saw what he did to her. Someone knows that Sawyer and Kevin weren't the perfect couple they seemed to be. And that someone—a killer—is now shadowing Sawyer's every move...
I WAS A TEENAGE STATISTIC by Hannah Jayne
Domestic abuse in teen relationships is, unfortunately, huge, and on the rise. One in five tweens – tweens! – say they know someone who is currently in an abusive dating situation, and more than half say they know someone who has been verbally abused by their girlfriend/boyfriend. For teens, more than 10% reveal that they have been physically slapped, hit, or hurt on purpose by a boyfriend or girlfriend in the last year.
When people ask why I tackled the issue of dating violence among teens in Truly, Madly, Deadly, I quote that study (from www.govtrack.us) -- and the asker tends to look at me blankly for a beat before saying, “I don’t believe that,” or, “That never happened when I was in school,” or “If it’s that bad, why aren’t we hearing about it?”
The answer is the exact same whether you’re a teenager or an adult caught in an abusive situation: we think it’s shameful. We think we’re stupid for getting “caught” in that situation. We should have known better. It’s not him, it’s me. Why would anyone put up with that? I would definitely know if my teen/friend were being abused. Really? Some teens are themselves in abusive relationships and don’t even realize it.
Sometimes the abuse is disarmingly subtle – you have to call him every single day, regardless of what else is going on in your life. He freaks out if you talk to another guy (even your lab partner!) or if you spend too much time with your other friends. He doesn’t like it when you wear that skirt or that tank top or that make-up. You love him so much, and he’s such a great, caring guy who is obviously nuts over you (!), so you make sure you call every day right when you get home – even if it means skipping out on practice or an impromptu hike with friends. You switch to a female lab partner and pull back on “girl time.” If he doesn’t like that skirt, you won’t wear it because you’re dressing for him anyway, right? And that’s just what people in relationships do – they take feelings into consideration and then compromise.
But really, you’re the only one compromising.
If this situation sounds even remotely like yours or a friends, let me tell you this: this, right now, is as good as it’s ever going to get. He won’t “get better.” You can bow to every single one of his whims and his impression of you won’t improve. If he shoved you this time, the next time it will be worse. How do I know? Because it happened to me. And I wasn’t one of “those girls” – the kind you look down on, the kind you know are going to fail in life. No, I was head cheerleader and on the homecoming court. My boyfriend was on the football team. We were this amazing, wonderful couple – at first. And by the end of it, I was terrified to leave and terrified to stay.
This is the first time I’ve gone public – very public! – with my experience, and it happened nearly twenty years ago. I kept quiet because of the humiliation, because I “shouldn’t have let that happen.” But then I realized what I was doing was keeping his dirty little secret, not mine.
So far, I’ve received nothing but support for going public and for putting a spotlight on teen dating violence in Truly, Madly, Deadly. I’m confident and strong now but I still occasionally wonder if people will think I was stupid or weak. And then I have to remind myself that recognizing, surviving, and getting out of an abusive situation made me anything but.
If you are or think you are experiencing relationship abuse, please get help. Talk to a friend or another person you trust. Contact the National Teen Dating Violence Abuse Helpline at 866-331-9474 or the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-SAFE or 800-799-7233